How to deal with bullies

Today, we’re going to talk about something that’s not always easy but very important: dealing with bullies. We can encounter people who express aggressive, intimidating, coercive or bullying behaviour at any age. It can take place at school or even in a workplace.

Bullying can have a long-lasting effect and can affect our confidence and self esteem, especially when in social situations.

There are ways to handle bullies and to protect yourself. The tips below are aimed at helping children who are experiencing bullying, so if you are a parent, please do share my tips with your kids. However, the tips equally apply to adults experiencing bullying behaviour as well.

The main thing is we need to learn how to stand up, speak out, and try and make the world a kinder place for everyone.


1. Stay confident

The first step in dealing with bullies is to believe in yourself. Remember, you are amazing, just the way you are! Confidence can make you less of a target for bullies. Stand tall, walk with your head held high, and show them you’re not afraid.

2. Speak up

If a bully is bothering you, don’t suffer in silence. It’s important to let someone know what’s going on. Talk to a trusted adult, like your parents, teacher, or school counsellor. They can help you figure out a plan to stop the bullying.

3. Be a friend

One way to deal with bullies is to make friends. Bullies often pick on kids who are alone. So, try to hang out with friends who make you feel safe and supported. Together, you can face the bully with courage.

4. Ignore and walk away:

Sometimes, bullies are looking for a reaction. If you ignore them and walk away, they might get bored and stop bothering you. Remember, you don’t have to engage with them. Focus on the positive people in your life instead.

5. Use your words:

When you do have to respond to a bully, use your words, not your fists. Tell the bully calmly and confidently to stop. Say something like, “I don’t like it when you do that. Please stop.” Bullies are often looking for a big reaction, and when you stay calm, it takes their power away.

6. Find a buddy:

Sometimes, having a buddy with you can make you feel safer. If you’re worried about a bully, ask a friend to walk with you or be with you when the bully is around.

7. Practice assertiveness:

Being assertive means standing up for yourself while still being respectful. Practice saying things like, “I don’t like it when you do that,” or “That’s not nice. Please stop.” This can help you feel more confident when dealing with bullies.

8. Report bullying:

If the bullying continues, it’s essential to report it to a trusted adult, like a teacher, principal, or your parents. They can step in and take action to stop the bullying.

9. Be kind:

Finally, always remember the power of kindness. Being kind to others, even if they’re different from you, can help create a more inclusive and friendly environment. Together, we can build a world where bullies have no place.

10. Be yourself:

Most importantly, never forget to be yourself. You are unique and special, and the world needs you just the way you are. Don’t change who you are because of a bully. Keep shining brightly and standing up for what’s right.

Dealing with bullies is not easy, but you are stronger than you often think, and there are always people, you can talk to and turn to for support.

By standing up, speaking out, and being kind, you can make the world a better place, not just for yourself but for everyone around you. Remember, you are not alone, and there is help and support available. Together, we can stand up to bullies and create a more tolerant, inclusive world.